If you told me in college I’d be a professional college speaker, I might have believed you. If you had told me one of my topics would be the intersection of alcohol, blackouts, consent and sexual assault, I definitely would not have believed you. But here I am, speaking to countless students across the country about the environments that are created when alcohol and people come together, and the possible outcomes that might happen. Why? Because they happened to me.
I consider myself a storyteller. So naturally I share my own stories in keynotes. I feel like it’s the best way to connect with audiences that are usually attending a mandatory alcohol or sexual assault prevention speaker. For about four years I’ve been sharing my keynote A Night to Forget: The Intersection of Blackouts and Consent. After the keynote I usually have students coming up to me and sharing their experiences, telling me their own stories. Over this time I’ve really been struck by the following:
It is my hope that we can continue to make our environments a safe place for all who step foot on campus, because that’s what they should be. It is my hope we continue to engage with each other in meaningful ways, because that’s where we create bonds and memories for the rest of our lives. It is my hope that we believe those who share their stories, because that’s bravery in action.
I look forward to a day when I don’t have to share my story anymore, but until then I’ll continue to be brave enough to have a conversation that matters.